Whenever there is an
open day in the school, there is a lot of anxiety running among the students to
know as how well they have fared in the exams. The stress among the parents is
even more than that of the students. So there is always a long queue of parents
waiting for me at this point of time.
After seeing 6 parents
for their child having academic issues, suprisingly now a parent of a fourth
standard student came stating that my child does not have any academic issues
but he does not speak in the class. Even if someone hits him he does not say
anything. He is scared of the teacher and when someone speaks loudly he starts
crying.
The
question I asked the mother were:-
· What
are the strengths of the child? To which the mother
says nothing
· Are
you sending the child in some activities? Mother said yes
· Does
someone shouts at him at home? Mother said No
· Do
you all praise the child? Mother said yes
At
this time I could relate that being quite in the class is due to lack of
confidence. But what exactly was the reason still was not clear from the above
questions.
The
mother added that his speech was not clear and he stammered a bit. BINGO now I
know. I called the child and tried speaking to him. He was very soft and I
would barely hear what he was saying. At this point I just told the child to
stand straight and put his shoulders firm at the back. I asked him to recite a
poem loudly and clearly. He said the whole poem without stammering.
What
was this quick transformation? Most of us face lack of confidence at some point
of time. I will share few quick fixes so that we can be in the state of
confidence 24/7.
1) PHYSIOLOGY CHANGE
The way your physiology
is that is how you will get thoughts and that is how your emotions will be
created. The mind and body are connected. If you see the physiology of Amitabh
Bachhan or a military man their physiology is strong. Also if you remember I
corrected the physiology of the boy first.
· As
strong physiology = strong mind = great emotions = FULL OF CONFIDENCE
2) FOCUS
Focus on positives
rather than negative that means focus on solutions instead of problems. For
e.g. when the baby does not eat we tend to force the child. Still if does not
eat then we tend to shift the focus by saying look at the bird and then feed
him.
Shift your FOCUS on only
RESULT
For e.g. need to shift
the focus from nervousness before a speech to the best results
after the speech.
· Shift your FOCUS on
SOLUTIONS = YOU WILL FEEL CONFIDENT
3) CHANGE
CORE BELIEFS
If you THINK I don’t
have the background or confidence to do a task - Brain gets two possibilities
and gets confused.
Belief – I will not
succeed anyway.
Confidence -LOW
THINK- I will do it for
sure – Brain knows what to do
Belief – I will succeed
Confidence -HIGH
POSITIVE BELIEF = SUPERB
CONFIDENCE
4) INCREASE
THE SPEED
Confidence increase by
the way you speak, by the way you move, by the way your gestures are and by the
way your tone of voice is.
- Increase
you walking speed by 20%
- Increase
your tone of talking (volume) by 20%
- Increase your speed of
talking by 20%
*(Not for people who are
really fast)
· GOOD
MOTION = GREAT CONFIDENCE
5) SUCCESS
JOURNAL
Keep a success journal
to show yourself of all the dark incidence you have gone through and you
succeeded those tough times beautifully. You have feel proud about the things
you have done.
It will remind you that
in tough situations you turned it off. This will help you to face any
situations with full confidence.
· You
as SUCCESSFUL COMPETANT PERSON = FEELING AWESOME AND CONFIDENT
6) START
CONTRIBUTION
When you help people and
contribute to something you feel more confident.
· CONTRIBUTION
TO SOCIETY = CONTRIBUTES TO YOUR CONFIDENCE
7) STOP
ANALYZING YOURSELF
Even a single doubt
affects the confidence of the person. We tend to focus a lot on our self by
analyzing our self and asking questions like why was I not able to it?
· STOP
ANALYZING SELF = INCREASED CONFIDENCE
#Progressive Youth program # Rinkal Karia # Directional Coach and Guide for Youth# Love to help people # Feeling Awesome
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